Buying your first wand can feel like a big step. It doesn't need to be. A wand is one of the simplest, friendliest toys there is, and this guide covers everything you need to know before your first go.
What is a wand, exactly?
A wand is a massager with a long handle and a soft, rounded head. The vibration is broad and rumbly rather than sharp and buzzy, which is why so many people find it the easiest place to start. You use it on the outside of the body, anywhere that feels good: shoulders, neck, thighs, and of course the more intimate spots.
Why a wand is a great first toy
- Easy to use. No positioning puzzles. Hold it, press a button, explore.
- Easy to control. Start on the lowest setting and work up only when you want to.
- Easy to share. The long handle makes it simple to use solo or with a partner.
- Easy to explain. It's a massager. Use it as one, if that's where you'd like to begin.
Getting started: five tips for your first time
- Charge it first. Every bed geek wand is cordless, so give it a full charge before you start. Nothing kills the mood like a flat battery.
- Start low and slow. Begin on the gentlest setting. You can always go up; most people are surprised how little they need.
- Go over, not on. If direct contact feels too intense, try it through underwear or a sheet. It softens the sensation nicely.
- Add a little lube. A water-based lube keeps things smooth and is the safe choice for silicone toys.
- Take your time. There's no right way to do this. Move it around, try different patterns, and notice what you like.
Which bed geek wand should I pick first?
All four of our wands are cordless, made from body-safe silicone and whisper quiet. Here's how they differ.
PLAY:THREE, the easy all-rounder
20 vibration patterns, 8 speeds and just three simple buttons. It's a lot of choice without being complicated. Available in Black, Gray and Plum.
Choose it if you want plenty to explore with controls you'll learn in a minute. Shop PLAY:THREE
PLAY:FOUR, the soft one
A soft, rounded head, a sculpted leaf-line grip, and a glowing control panel that's easy to find in the dark. Available in Black and Pink.
Choose it if comfort in the hand and lights-off use matter most. Shop PLAY:FOUR
The Enchanter, the special one
Black with rose-gold trim, made to look as lovely on the bedside table as it feels in use.
Choose it if you'd like your first wand to feel like a treat. Shop The Enchanter
The Magician, the powerhouse
Our ultimate wand, for anyone who already knows they like deep, strong vibration.
Choose it if you want room to grow into. Shop The Magician
Looking after your wand
- Clean it before and after use with warm water and mild soap, or a toy cleaner, on a cloth. Wipe the head and handle, then dry it fully.
- Store it somewhere clean and dry, away from other toys.
- Recharge it after use so it's ready for next time.
The small print, made simple
Every order ships free in plain, discreet packaging, usually arriving in 2–5 days. And if it's not right for you, you have 30 days to return it.
Go on, treat yourself. See all wands
Written by bed geek